One day, while doing the dishes, I was watching Miss Representation, a documentary about female representation in media. It zooms into a picture media draws about women and how it effects the possibility of women to get into leading roles in companies. I’m a huge feminist myself and I’ve grown even more emphatic during the last year as I’ve got more confidence and a possibility to teach kids about equality. At the same time I hate that we still have to fight for this.
Underwear is often overlooked when it comes to discussions about clothing. Still, they are used everyday so let’s take a look to our ‘nearest and dearest’. We are talking about quality, quantity and what kind of underclothes one may need. Undergarments are a very personal thing but here is a handful of basic knowledge you can use to get the most out of the least.
Both, me and Janina, are somewhat fluid with our gender identities. That takes the wardrobe problems to a whole new level. The same way as gender isn’t black and white the wardrobe problems can appear in a whole spectrum. For Janina the challenge is juggling with feminine and masculine days.
Our good intentions to get our mid-week blog post done went off like smoke to the windy air. There was an incident including sharp edge of glass and a leg, hand wide cut on a thigh, fainting and stitches. Now back at home, we have been trying to relax after the traumatic incident.
So it happened.
First I got sick and now it’s Iida’s turn and I haven’t even recovered yet. We have struggled to make a blog post this weekend as our energies are really low. Tons of ideas, really. Posts about LGBTIQ role models, womance and the continuing series about organizing bathroom and working on the wardrobe. But all the great stuff has to wait until we get better and life starts rolling again.
In the mean time let me sort out few tips and tricks how to kill the flu or at least make it more bearable.
Hands up, how many has moments when cooking is almost a mission impossible? Well, we at least do. It feels ridiculous, we are two adults, it’s not like we have to cook for a roomful of kids. And I’m talking about cooking easy, quick meals, nothing fancy or even with a recipe.
Eating and cooking is a tricky thing for me. I’ve lived with a spectrum of eating disorders for many years and time to time there is an urge to snap back. I’m doing so much better now but I still have some difficulties (mostly motivational) to make food only for myself.
Few years back I worked in a gift shop as a sales assistant during one summer. Everyone there had clothing provided by the firm to wear at work, 60’s style knee length dress with open armholes and colourful apple pattern. That apple dress was to become my worst enemy in terms of feeling good of myself but after all it was also the key.
Clothes and style is so personal that even small things can throw it off. You perhaps know the feeling from your own childhood. An accident including juice, milk or anything liquid. You messed your clothes and then you had to borrow something to wear from your cousin against your will: your aunt, mother or grandma insisted. There was always something wrong with the borrowed piece. Maybe the colour was wrong, the material was scratchy or it just smelled funny.
Imagine a day when you have a great feeling about yourself. You slept well, had a lovely cup of tea with a satisfying breakfast. Things are really going your way. Next thing coming is to pick the outfit for the day and in my mind this is the critical moment of many days. It can boost you to even better day or it can set your back at least few steps. What is the key on winning this moment? Wisely created capsule wardrobe of course.
Lately we got to know the term Capsule Wardrobe. It was first used by Susie Faux during the 1970’s. You can read more about Mrs. Faux from her homepage.
In a nutshell capsule wardrobe is meant to be well-organized wardrobe with clothes that play well together without the overwhelming amount of clothes. Important aspects are good materials, right fit, classic pieces and a neutral colour scheme. There’s countless tutorials and tips for creating working capsule, just search with the term.
Boy offers red roses to a blushing girl in a dress, the empty space is filled with flowers and red hearts. I give up trying to find a Valentine’s day card to my same sex spouse from the bookshop. Every queer themed image is important, because there’s so little of LGBTIQ imagery. Art has ability to change the viewer but it also grows along changing society. Love isn’t just boy and girl kissing.
Love isn’t heteronormative but often described like it and around Valentine’s day the imagery is everywhere. As a visual person it angers me to see the void of queer imagery in the media, because by creating something people are able to see and watch, makes it somehow more real. It’s a tangible evidence of the creator and the subject.
We met our good friend’s new sweetheart at Sunday. Great guy, I tell you. It was nice to talk over a coffee, get to know him and tell funny stories. He joked that fishing is the best thing one can do with their pants on.We don’t have yet special plans for Valentine’s but as we are introverts, our good times happen mostly at home or at least in a peaceful environment. At this time of the year weather here is cold so going outside is not nice and we are not very keen to leave home. Also we are not going to spend hundreds for one day but both of us are in the mood for a little romance. We have been listing some alternative’s to wine and dine dates, things to do instead.
So, spring cleaning, eh? Cleaning is not easy task for us partly because of the depression symptoms, when body or mind is sick, it’s tired. But how many of us loves cleaning anyway? For us the best way to tackle the task is to keep mind on the prize: serene, clean and uncluttered home.
Spring cleaning does include decluttering and organizing maybe even more than actual scrubbing and hoovering. We have made a habit of annually clean the closets and declutter our apartment. We seldom clean our cupboards very thoroughly for winter holidays but when there’s more light and days start to grow longer it’s nice to try and figure out cluttered spaces again. Our small home is just 58 square meters with a small attic closet. That space fills up pretty easily and I think at the moment we aren’t even keeping up with the filling speed.
I have walked a long journey with depression and anxiety and by this day I’ve come to realise that sometimes I need a good pack of tools to help me cope with my destructive thinking and low mood. When an anxiety attack comes I’m not very likely to start searching for something to boost my mood so it is handy to sneak these working coping methods into the mind so if we are lucky they might just pop out in the right moment. When you feel that you aren’t good enough and everyone else is judging you even though they don’t admit it, it’s definitely time get something positive going on and tackle the beast.
I don’t think many of us have tons of money just to toss away and I definitely know we haven’t after studying six years. Then somewhere in your mid-twenties you start to think about making it official with your long time sweetheart and all of a sudden there’s a wedding party, which can take in an amount of money that’s equal to some small country’s GDP.
When we had our wedding Janina was fresh out of college and I was finishing my studies, so we were really living with a minimal amount of money. We had been engaged five years and were really eager to take the next step. We wanted a relaxed and beautiful wedding with eighty quests, outdoor ceremony and dancing with the smallest budget possible.